what is a ftm

Hey Raemond,

I understand your plight. I am gay and specifically attracted to biomen, which makes it even more difficult. The FTM community in SF is so hooked up with the lesbian community that I avoid it altogether. There seem to be many female FTM admirers, but finding gay men who are willing to give a transman a try is tougher.

That said, I have met a several biomale admirers here on Tribe. You can also find them on Craigslist. I have also met men at BDSM play parties who did not know I was trans and who were interested enough to play with me, even if it got to a point where I had to disclose. And I have met gay men though friends who have either dated FTMS in the past or have a definite continuing interest in them.

I've found that while it is difficult to find sex as an FTM, finding a relationship or even a FWB situation is even tougher. It seems that most men who will have sex with transmen are only looking for a one-time fuck. There are exceptions, of course - just tougher to find. If you are attracted to women, you should have an easier time.

In NYC, there is a monthly Bear's social that is open to FTMs. I'm not sure if I still have the link, but I can look for it.

If you are interested in meeting folks through Tribe, I would suggest that you fill out your profile, post a photo, and join more groups on tribe - there are several trans and ftm groups where you can meet people interested in transmen. But you have to interact with people in order to meet them.

I would also suggest trying Craigslist personals (use FTM in a keyword search) and look for that Bear's social.

It IS difficult, but not impossible. Good luck!